Ministry Update – April 2018

Surfing the wave of grace…

Love Them To Life
Reaching out to those in addiction and to those who love them
Spring Newsletter – 2018

What Is In a Name?

When this ministry began 6 years ago, we used the name XL Project to represent “Exchanged Life” projects; in other words, we wanted to appply the message of Galatians 2:20 to the area of addiction. One of the “projects” that developed was Love Them to Life (LTTL), an outreach to mothers who have children in addiction. Through the years it has become obvious that Love Them to Life is a much more recognizable and memorable name for our ministry, as we seek to reach out to those in addiction and to those who love them. While XL Project is still our legal name, we will be transitioning to using our DBA name of Love Them to Life.

In 2015, we self-published our book Beside Still Waters: Discovering Peace in the Midst of Your Child’s Addiction. We are grateful that over 1200 books have been sold! In the Fall of 2016, we received a call from Christian Faith Publishing letting us know that they were interested in republishing the book. The book is due to be released in the next few weeks but we thought we would give you a sneak peak at the new cover. One of the advantages of having a publisher is that they will be publicizing the book to 4,000 media outlets. We are excited to see what Father does in reaching those with children in addiction.


One of the ministry opportunities we had recently was to present our seminar, Freedom From Addiction, to several churches. The first seminar was at Bayside Chapel in Barnegat, NJ, (our home church) on January 27, 2018. We had about 90 people that attended, primarily family members and friends of those in addiction. In the morning we talked about the problem of addiction, including the definition of addiction, the root causes of addiction, and the effects of addiction on loved ones. We started the afternoon talking about the world’s solution to addiction and then finished with the biblical perspective of Jesus Christ as the only bondage breaker.

On February 24, we presented the seminar at the First Baptist Church of Proctorville, Ohio, to approximately 200 people. Proctorville is right across the river from Huntington, West Virginia, which has 10x the overdose rate of any other city in America. Joe gave his testimony in the Sunday morning service, followed by our facilitating a Q&A time. The church has seen the need to address the needs of the community by providing outreach and counseling through trained recovery coaches. Dr. John Woodward from Grace Fellowship International was the guest presenter in the afternoon.

Our country is facing a growing crisis of opioid addiction and it is no longer confined to the inner cities; overdose deaths are increasing yearly. In 2016, there were 64,000 opioid (heroin, pain killers, and Fentanyl) related deaths, which is 6,000 more than in the entire Vietnam war. In that same year, 78,000 died of alcohol-related causes. Addiction is touching families across the country, no matter their location and socioeconomic status.

We are available to present the Freedom From Addiction seminar at your church. Please contact us at lovethemtolife@gmail.com or call us at 732-773-7747 if you are interested.

Love Them To Life is a faith-based, Christ-centered non-profit ministry. Support for Love Them To Life can be sent to:

31A Yorktowne Pkwy
Whiting, NJ 08759

Donations can also be made through the “Donate” tab on our websitelovethemtolife.com.

I Need to get High poem – Lorelie Rozzano

 

I Need To Get High

 

 

“I’m your child, or spouse, or friend.

But I’ve changed.

I don’t care about you.

Not in the way you want me to.

I care about getting high.

I WANT to get high.

I will do ANYTHING to get high.

I LOVE getting high.

I NEED to get high …

And I will step over you to do it.

When I look at you, I don’t see YOU.

I see a means to an end.

You have money.

I want it.

End of story.

I don’t care if you can’t pay the rent.

I don’t care if you need groceries.

I don’t care if you promised not to give me money.

I don’t care if you lie to Dad.

I don’t care if you’re broke.

Sell your rings, take a loan, sell your electronics, max out your credit cards, or borrown the money, because if you don’t, I will STEAL it.

I WILL find a way to get HIGH.

You can think you can CHANGE me or SAVE me.

But you’re WRONG!

I don’t respond to love.

Something cold and dead slithers within me.

You can CRY all you want.

It won’t change things.

My morals are a thing of the past.

I will say anything, do anything, and hurt anyone to get my next FIX.

Although I may play the game with you, make no mistake.

I play, because I want money for DOPE.

I’ll say whatever you want to hear, I’ll promise you the world, I’ll look you in the eyes, and I’ll break your heart …

Over and over again.

I don’t have a heart.

I have a HUNGER.

It’s calculating and manipulative, and it OWNS me.

In a strange way you’re thankful for this.

For when I need something I find you, quick!

Then, when I’ve gotten what I want, I leave.

You’re anxious without me.

You offer to buy my food, or pay my rent.

You live to GIVE.

By now your NEED is almost as great as mine.

I can’t stay SICK without you.

You can’t breathe without ME.

You think you’re helping me.

You believe you’re making a difference.

But what you’re really helping is my ADDICTION.

I won’t tell you this, but you know it, deep down.

If we keep going like this, one or both of us will die.

Me from an overdose, that you paid for,

And you from a heart attack or stroke.

You’ve waited YEARS for me to change or see the light.

You keep my secrets and protect my lies.

You clean up my mess and bail me out.

You love me to the exclusion of EVERYONE else.

My addiction changed you.

You hide from your friends and isolate.

You’re bitter and depressed.

Your world revolves around one thing only … ME.

But will your LOVE ever become greater than your FEAR?

Would you be strong enough to reach out for help?

Will you learn to say NO?

Will you allow me to experience the consequences of my actions?

Will you LOVE me enough to feel your discomfort and stop enabling my addiction?

I lay trapped within the confines of this cold, dark serpent – addiction, and I am …

Dying.”

 

Lorelie Rozzano

Freedom From Addiction Seminar

Bayside Chapel will be presenting a Freedom from Addiction seminar on Saturday, January 27th, from 9am – 4pm. Doors open at 8:30am. This is a free seminar for family and friends of those in addiction. Presenters will be Joe and Cherri Freeman and Pastor Joe Faraldi.

Bayside Chapel is located at 965 West Bay Ave, Barnegat, NJ 08005

 

All are welcome!

New LTTL Group

We are delighted to announce that a new LTTL group is starting  October 11, 2017, from 7 – 8:30 pm at Coastal Christian Church in Ocean City, NJ. The church is located at 801 West Avenue, Ocean City, NJ, 08226.  The meeting will be held in the Coastal Life Center. For more information, please call 609-399-4747. We would appreciate prayer that many lives will be touched as a result of this new group.

If you are interested in starting a group in your location, please email us at lovethemtolife@gmail.com.

September Ministry Update

Surfing the wave of grace…

XL Project – Love Them To Life
Reaching Out to Those in Addiction and to Those Who Love Them

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

The God of all comfort – what an amazing reality that the God who holds the universe together cares about the things that hurt us! He is not far off but is intimately involved in every facet of our lives. Even when He allows suffering to touch us, it is never to harm us but to help us grow. Joe and I are certainly walking through difficult times with his worsening health issues, and yet Father comforts and sustains us. He continues to allow us to reach out to those in addiction and to those who love them.

We had a wonderful opportunity to share our ministry on radio in July as we were interviewed by Deb Moore for her program on LiftFM and then on WYRS with Bob Wick. (See the blog post below.) As a result of the interview with Deb Moore, we found out that a large church in Cape May Courthouse is using our book Beside Still Waters in their support group meeting for parents with children in addiction.

Joe was invited to give his testimony at the Wildwood Boardwalk Chapel on August 23rd. He has a long history with the Boardwalk Chapel, as at age 9, he used to try to sell newspapers to the pastor. What he didn’t know then was that the pastor was the father of our friend and president of America’s Keswick, Bill Welte. Joe spent many of the darkest years of his addiction in Wildwood, so going back there to speak and share the hope of Jesus Christ was truly full circle for him. He gave his testimony at the Hymn Sing at Keswick on Sept 7th and then spoke at the Men’s Breakfast at Bayside Chapel in Barnegat, NJ, on Sept 9th. His topic there was “Suffering: Just Another Opportunity to Trust God.” He will also speaking at Bethesda Mission in Harrisburg on Sept 14th. We have been invited to speak at our first supporting church, West Davenport Free Baptist Church in Oneonta, NY, on October 1st – we always love getting together with the wonderful people of that church located in such a beautiful setting.

Joe and Pastor Jim Zozzaro at the Wildwood Boardwalk Chapel


Love Them To Life is continuing to grow. There are currently 8 groups that are either LTTL groups or are using the book in their own support meetings. There is another large church in South Jersey that is going through the final permissions to start a group – that should be off the ground by the end of Sept or early October. Earlier this summer all the leaders of the LTTL groups met through a phone conference and talked about ideas for the ministry and the challenges they face as leaders. It was a wonderful time as sisters in Christ who are dedicated to reaching out to other mothers in crisis.

It is so important for ministries to be very transparent about their finances and the way donations are used. We hear stories of various charities that do little more than enrich the pockets of their leaders. We want to make it clear that all money donated to XL Project/ Love Them To Life goes directly to the ministry. Neither Joe nor I take a salary from the ministry at this point. The money is used to help with ministry expenses, travel, and providing books to mothers who do not have the resources to be able to buy one. We have a godly board of directors who give of their time to provide oversight and encouragement to us as we “reach out to those in addiction and to those who love them.” All donations are tax-deductible.

If Father lays it on your heart to assist us in the battle against addiction, donations can be made in several ways:

1. By Check – 31A Yorktowne Pkwy, Whiting, NJ 08759. It should be made out to XL Project.

2. Electronic giving through PayPal  is this site’s Donate page here.

One way that you can help us is to “like” us on Facebook and share us with your friends. We have an XL Project page and a Love Them To Life page. Sharing us with your friends is a great way to get the word out that there is help and hope for those in addiction and for those who love them.